A Simple Wish

I am a mommy. I have two beautiful tiny humans that I love and cherish more than anything in the world. Am I perfect? Nope, I am not. But everything I do, every single day, is always for them. And I am lucky enough that I have found the most amazing man who loves my tiny ones (who says “like” but I know he loves them despite what he says) and has three kids of his own whom he cherishes with his entire being. So between the two of us, we have 3 little him’s and 2 little me’s and an enormous amount of love. But that is not what this blog is about. This blog is probably going to be first of my blogs that you will see that I am not all sunshine and rainbows, however, it will not be terrible, just more of a to the point kind of vibe.

My divorce was not easy, nor was it quick. My divorce lasted roughly twenty months. Yes, you read that correctly—TWENTY months. Near the end, my tiny humans’ birth father began a relationship with his now fiancé. Saying I was less than happy would be the understatement of the century, but I tried to treat her with respect and be an adult; I actually appreciated when she took it upon herself to introduce herself to me—it showed a lot of character. She told me her name, that she had a son around my tiny boy human’s age and that her son also had asthma so she knew how to help my son in case of an emergency. I respected her for that, it had to have been hard for her—I know it was certainly difficult for me—but in all honesty, it made me less angry and more comfortable knowing who was around my children. Unfortunately t hat respect faded since she has shown me her true character as a person and as a mother, but that is not the point of this story. What is the point you ask?

The point of that background story is this: the love of my life and I have talked seriously about having a future together, which would mean that all seven of us, he and I and all five of the kids, would be spending much more time together. I have no problem with that, he has not voiced any concern over it, but their birth mother, however, has made it very clear that she has a big problem with me. And that makes me really sad. I would love to just be able to introduce myself to her, to say, “Hi, I am the woman that is around your children.” And she could ask me anything she wanted and voice her concerns and get it all out of her system because she really seems to dislike me to the highest capacity without even knowing who I am.

I completely understand: she is their mother and she does not want some other woman coming into their lives and trying to take her place. I am a stranger to her, and she is worried about being “replaced” and about what kind of person I am. However, that is not what I want—I would never dream of replacing her. I just wish she could see that I would never try to take her place in her children’s lives: they have a mother; they do not need another one. The only thing I would hope to let her—and the kids—know is that I am just a bonus in their lives, just another person that cares about them and their well-being, another person who will love them and be there for them no matter what.

So, while I highly doubt their mother is reading my blog, I would love to offer her an invitation to meet at a local café, buy her a coffee and let her ask me anything she wants and get out any of her concerns and hopefully ease her mind, because I know how difficult it is not to know who is around your children, I have been there. I wish there were some way that we could meet to clear things up considering the difficulties we have encountered due to the insecurities she feels with another woman being around her children. So if she is reading this somehow, I hope she sincerely accepts my invitation to get together, because I really think it may help our somewhat “unique” situation and make her more comfortable with the fact that I am going to be around for a very, very long time.

Pink Warrior: Girl Time!

So my favorite thing to do is spend time with my angels. We like to do crafts, bake, and go to the movies. I love to get to spend as much time as I can with them. So I wanted to share some yummy recipes,  fun crafts, and must see movies.

First I have 2 super yummy easy recipes for you. They are easy and any child 2 and up can make them.

***Peanut Butter and Jelly Sushi Rolls***

(No fish needed unless it's goldfish)

2 tablespoons Creamy Peanut Butter

2 tablespoons Jelly, Jam, or Preserves (pick your favorite)

2 slices bread

Directions

Remove crusts from bread. With a rolling pin or large soup can, completely flatten bread.

Spread 1 tablespoon of peanut butter and 1 tablespoon of fruit spread on each slice of bread.

Roll each slice into a tight spiral. Cut each spiral into 4 pieces.

My girls love making this for lunch! 

***Munchie Necklaces*** 

(perfect on the go snack)

String, yarn, or rope

Pretzels

Fruit Loops

Regular or Honey-Nut Cheerios

Lifesaver Gummies

(You can use any snack with a hole in the middle but think of how messy they are because it is a necklace)

This is the fun part. Cut the string to a length that can go around your kids neck. Let them string the snacks on the string/yarn/rope and tie the ends together. You now have a fast easy on the go snack that isn't messy.

Next is 2 crafts for kids of any age. These are fun and wont break the bank! The first is in honor of all the snow we have had. 

***Snow Paint***

Food Coloring

Water

Spray Bottles

Remove the tops of the spray bottles and fill them with water.  Then, add enough dye to get the color you want.  I used a pretty good amount of dye to make the color vibrant and bright!  Screw the lid back on the bottle, and give it a good shake. Then outside you go to decorate your yard!

Alternative way is to put snow in a 9 by 13 cake pan and let them use paint brushes like watercolor painting.

***Windsocks***

Construction Paper or Crayons/Markets

Streamers (or ribbon. As many colors as you want)

A Toilet Paper Roll or cardboard Oatmeal Can

Yarn

Tape or Glue

Scissors

Ruler

Either wrap construction paper around your tube or color it with your Crayons/Markers. Let an adult put two holes at the top of the tube. Lace the yarn through the holes and tie it. This is how you hang it up. Then take your streamers/ribbon and cut them into even strips. You can then cut them length wise to make them skinny or leave them wide. Glue the strips on the inside bottom of the tube and let dry. Then hand then for all to see! (For younger kids I would have everything cut and prepped due to short attention span) 

And last but not least movies! Whether you go to the theater or stay on your cozy couch here are some must see movies.

 1. Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs 2 

 2.  Frozen- theater (good for boys and girl)

 3.  Turbo

 4. Dispicable Me 1 or 2

 5. Nut Job-theater

I hope these fun crafts, yummy recipes,  and awesome movies help you plan a super fun day with your kids. Also if you have something fun comment and let me know. I am always looking for new things to do with my girls!